As a Career Coach who is also a Therapist I am acutely aware of how difficult it is to look for a job, especially if you have been let go from a position or unemployed, or are trying to change fields or are feeling like age is becoming a factor. I wrote “and then I painted the garage”, in part, because I knew that dealing with feelings was not dealt with sufficiently in other job search books. I put off writing the book for a long time because I did not want to publish something that was already available. ATIPTG deals with the how’s of finding a job AND how do you handle your feelings while you go through what can be a difficult time.
Generally, there is a lot more dealing with rejection in a job search than most people are use to / comfortable with. You are constantly opening yourself up to being evaluated and many people are fearful that no one will want them, or they will never find the right job. You send out your resume ( one which you have put in a lot of work ) and most of the time never hear back. While you can read this is normal and you should not take it personally, most people feel rejected and start questioning their worth. You go for an interview and don’t get the offer and wonder “what did I do wrong”
- When I do outplacement (the antiseptic term for when organizations pay me to help their terminated employees find a new job), people are often crushed that they have been let go. It comes as a shock. Some cry, some are angry, almost no one is happy, thinking, “Oh, what a great opportunity”.
- I have worked with CEO’s, and senior level executives who cried in my office talking about how they were going to pay their bills. The fact that they may have a “golden parachute” was less important at that moment than the uncertainty and dread they experienced. How much worse for us mere mortals who may be one or two paychecks away from economic ruin.
- I have worked with people who have more than unemployment to manage, they have behavioral health challenges. They have to manage their symptoms and conduct a job search. They worry about the regular job search issues plus what to do about seeming different. One client, who was actually sent to me from another company because they did not want to deal with his anxiety and bipolar disorder, had to have relaxation sessions and positive guided imagery to get him through an interview. It worked. I realized everyone could benefit from some of these techniques.
- I have worked with lots of people who have not looked for a job for a long time. They are uncertain what to do. If you have not looked for a job for years your resume is probably out-of-date and you may be “rusty” regarding interviewing.
- I have been helping people deal with age discrimination from the first time I work with displaced employees (another euphemism) 35 years ago. Some of it is very real, some is self-perception. I found that both could often be handled for better outcomes.
- The title of the book comes from one client’s reaction to the stress of looking for a job. He came up with a lot of excuses to avoid starting his search because he had negative expectations.
- I have found that in working with many different populations there are certain similarities. Everyone has to deal with their feelings in looking for work, as much as they needed a plan, resume, interview practice, etc. Why not make it easier for people?
- And, I like talking to people (groups). There is a performance aspect of doing presentations. I enjoy helping people and talking about the book brings those together
- Writing the book makes my work easier. I can use the book as a resources. It actually saves clients money because I spend less time needing to explain things
- While I have had several weeks training to be a “Career Coach” I found that not everything I was taught was correct or sufficient. I spoke to dozens of employers about hiring practices and hundreds of individuals who did job searches and constantly fine-tunes my approach. I synthesized what I learned from career development, personal growth, therapy , Covey’s 7 Habits and other sources.
- I try to help people find jobs that will contribute to their life goals. It is more than getting a job.
- While Freud made not be the trendiest he was asked about happiness and he stated its most basic components were the ability to love and work. I try to make at least a little contribution